Social Learning Begins at Home
One of the social maladies that is killing our culture is age segregation. School and related activities—deemed so necessary for a “well-rounded education”—separate kids by age, effectively separating them not only from their parents but their siblings too, for the bulk of their waking hours. Then the church, with its age-graded classes and activities adds to the isolation. We don’t really go to church together any more. That old institution called family time has just about withered into oblivion in America.
The cold, hard fact is that the family is the most basic and the most important social group in existence. Yet we go to such lengths to involve our children in a long list of activities, often with “socialization” as the goal, which in the aggregate just about guarantee that we will never have enough time together to really experience family life much deeper than the surface.
You’ll have to resist the temptation to swim with the current if you want to cultivate a connected family life. You’ll have to say no to some opportunities and you’ll have to be intentional about making sure that you have enough time together at home to stay in touch. Being a family is the most important socializing you will ever do.