Don’t you hate it when you’ve worked hard on a project, and full of excitement, you show it to a friend who immediately points out several things they think are wrong with it? Your excitement just deflated like a balloon. That’s exactly what I DON’T want to do with my kids. You weren’t asking for a critique of your project. Now, after the excitement dies down, sure, you want to get some suggestions to help you improve it; but initially, you want some encouragement for all the effort you made getting it to this point.
That analogy helps me to view life from my child’s point of view. The best parent continually learns how to do this. Step into their shoes and try to imagine how they are feeling before you speak. We as parents are responsible to guide our children, to steer them in the right path, to admonish when they are doing wrong, and to lovingly allow them the freedom to fail and learn from their failures. Continue reading How To Be an Encouraging Mom – Part 1
I have always worked by setting a basic schedule to accomplish what I know I need to have done. But there are times in life when all the best intentions just don’t cut it, and life “interrupts” the best laid plans. I have found though, that God is the master; in my experience, there have been several times that God has planned for my family a “curriculum” we would not have chosen for ourselves. In retrospect, however, it was during those stressful times that we grew together as a family and learned some lessons of the true meaning of life.
Continue reading Homeschooling Struggles: Part 4- Life’s Interruptions
How do you deal with children who don’t seem interested or who don’t seem to want to learn?
First of all, I have learned, that some kids need to move to remain alert. It’s almost as if they just can’t get their brain to focus. They can be sitting, looking at something you know they know how to do, and yet it seems that although they are physically present, their brain is just not in gear. I think of one of my boys in particular. With him, he just needed to get up and move. He’d ask me if he could go jump on the trampoline to wake up his brain, and it really did work! Especially boys just seem to need to move, and when kept sitting still for long periods of time, they click into zombie mode. Several times during the course of a morning, he would go outside and run or jump on the trampoline, come back in and be able to focus again. I noticed with him also, when spelling his words out loud (which worked much better than writing them for him), he could think better if he was moving, climbing on the couch or scooting around on the floor. If you have one like that, let him move. When he is older, he will be able to sit and concentrate for longer periods of time, but don’t rush it when he is young.
Continue reading Homeschooling Struggles: Part 3- Uninterested Learners and Creative Teaching
I began homeschooling my first son when he was in kindergarten. What a joy..a firstborn eager to learn all he could just as fast as he could! I thought, wow- this homeschooling really is wonderful; and it was! But when my other children came along I expected they would learn just the way Rick did. Surprise! Each one of my children was very different and learned in the unique way God made them. Continue reading Homeschooling Struggles: Part 2- Struggling Learners
Don’t feel like you need a House Beautiful home before you can invite people over. If I had, I wouldn’t have had the blessing of all the wonderful people we’ve had into our home all these years, because I still don’t have a House Beautiful home! You don’t need to fix a complicated meal either. I love using a crock pot for company meals so I don’t have a lot of last minute preparations to do. Be sure to let your kids help with the preparation and serving too. The more they invest in the company, the more they will appreciate it.
The following is a list of 10 ways you can bless people by opening up your homes to them.
Continue reading Hospitality: Part 5- 10 Ways You Can Open Up Your Home to Others
We still have a few more posts in this Hospitality series coming up! Today, we’re talking about the Guest Room. Do you have one in your home? How important is this when it comes to hospitality? Does it matter what the guest room looks like? What if you can’t offer a special place for your guests- what will they think?
Continue reading Hospitality Part 4: How Important is a Guest Room?
As I said before, hospitality didn’t come easily to me. I thought of all kinds of reasons I shouldn’t invite others in my home. Have you ever had these fears jump into your mind?
1. My House Isn’t Big Enough– As our family continued to grow, unfortunately, our house did not. I was tempted to think, guests won’t be real comfortable at our house. We have to squeeze around the table without a lot of elbow room. We don’t really have adequate seating in the living room, etc. All those factors were true, but I found that guests didn’t seem to mind. It might not have been what they were used to, but often they seemed kind of fascinated by how a large family worked together. The benefits of building relationships was worth it to us.
Continue reading Hospitality Part 3: 6 Fears About Hospitality
Making hospitality a normal part of our home-life, gave me so many opportunities to train my children in how to treat others- adults or children- how to serve, how to engage in conversation, how to listen, how to make others feel comfortable in new situations, how to honor those to whom honor is due. It also allowed us to put godly people before their eyes and ears who could testify to God’s goodness and working in their lives. Allow your children to be a part of the process, the preparation, the conversation.
Here are some ways that having hospitality in your home will benefit your entire family:
Continue reading Hospitality Part 2: A Training Ground for Life
Let’s start with a rather simple definition. What is Hospitality? It’s “the friendly and generous reception and entertainment of guests, visitors, or strangers.” Some synonyms are: ” friendliness, welcome, helpfulness, neighborliness, warmth, kindness.”
Throughout this series, I want to encourage you to endeavor to make hospitality a characteristic of your home-life. Why? Because through the years, we have received so many blessings and benefits from opening up our homes to others. It is a Biblical character trait that should be cultivated in our own lives, and also the lives of our children as we model it for them.
But, you might be thinking, “I’m just way to busy with my little ones to even think about something like hospitality- it overwhelms me just thinking about it!” And I understand that! Having 14 children, my days were always filled with someone needing me, and life was and is indeed very busy. But, I do think that the benefits and blessings outweigh the inconvenience. Stick with me through these next few posts, and we will talk about some ways to make it work with children, practical ideas, and how all of this will benefit your entire family for years to come.
So, Let me begin by giving you a little background of how we started to practice hospitality in our own family.
Continue reading Hospitality- Part 1 “A Simple Beginning”